I could barely keep it together behind the lens as Peggy asked her brother Sheldon to the dance floor. They embraced in a hug as they both cried, listening to the song playing over the DJ’s speakers. I wiped the tears from my eyes and glanced around the room. At the one of the reception tables, I focused on Betty, Peggy’s mother. My breath caught in my throat. Tears cascaded like a waterfall down my cheeks. Betty was sobbing. Her family members surrounded her, as she held hands with her new son-in-law. Where Peggy's father John would have filled the seat next to Peggy's mother two weeks prior, a decorated photograph portrait sat. My heart broke in two. Such a sad yet happy moment for this amazingly strong family.
Peggy and Rick,
I am so honored that you thought of me to photograph your wedding. After almost 14 years together, I am so happy you decided to finally tie the knot.
Peggy, I feel like it was just yesterday when I worked with you at Vision Works and you were training me to help you with contact lens appointments. Time has flown by, but our friendship has only grown in strength. You and Rick are such a great match and I'm so glad to see you so happy together. Your father would have been such a proud papa and I know his spirit was there during your wedding.
Congratulations to you both and I wish you all the happiness!
Honoring a Loss of a Parent on your Wedding Day
Losing a loved one before a wedding is difficult. There are some ways you can keep your loved one close to you as a way to honor them in subtle but special ways..
Bring a framed photo of them - The photo of your honored guest can serve multiple purposes, and it can save them a seat at your reception or ceremony to designate a place of honor for your late loved one.
Wear something that was theirs - Wearing a relatives clothing can be a lovely, way to honor them on your wedding day. If a piece of clothing is not available, bring an accessory, such as jewelry, a crown, cuff links, or tie clip.
Decorate your Bouquet - Bring your loved one down the aisle with you by decorating your bouquet with a charm or even a bottle with their ashes.
A moment of silence - Consider bowing your heads in a moment of reflection and silence at your ceremony. Your officiant can include this important time into your ceremony and program and would be a simple meaningful way to interact with all of your guests and to honor others.
Have your photographer stage an interaction with a portrait of your deceased loved one - Think about posing in a few photos with a portrait of your loved one as if they were physically there with you. Have a few moments alone to reflect and remember them.
Add a Special Dance - Dance with a sibling or another parent or friend to honor the memory of the deceased loved one. Have your DJ or band cover a song that they loved or one that makes you think of them.
There are multiple ways to honor deceased loved ones. Even a small gesture may bring meaning to your wedding day. Incorporate whatever feels best and is most comfortable for you and your partner.
Special Thanks:
Peggy and Rick - Your wonderful family members!!